A few days ago a very dear friend of mine called me and we had a great time laughing and catching up as we always do. One would never guess by listening to the cheerful banter that my friend just a few weeks earlier had lost her sister to cancer. After our conversation it hit me. Even the day after her sister passed she was still focusing on the positive, choosing to remember the happy times. Choosing to stay positive. My friend has always been this way, she is like a ray of sunshine. Her smile and attitude is infectious.....it is one of the qualities about her that I admire most.
Happiness is a choice. My friend Pauline is a great example of that. We can crumble under the pressures of life and walk around depressed and anxious or we can choose to not let ANYTHING beat us down.
I remember when my sister-in-law lost her 16 year old son in a tragic accident. When the police delivered the news of her son's death, even though she in was extreme emotional pain, she prayed that God would give her the strength to not let this cause her to be bitter but that somehow something good will come out of her tragedy. I was there and it was one of the most powerful things I have ever witnessed. At the funeral she got up and spoke to other young people encouraging them to listen to their parents. She let them know that their life is precious and to live it well. Today my sister in law is one of the most jovial persons I know. She is choosing to be happy.
There will aways be something to worry about. Somebody to tick you off. Debbie downers to bring your spirits wayyyyyyyyy down. But, we can choose to focus on the things that make us happy. We can dwell on the things that makes us grateful to be alive.