I had the kind of relationship that was iron clad. One that could never fail or falter...... until it did.
I had been married to the most wonderful man on earthfor almost twenty years when my whole world shifted of it's axis. We had been living long distance for a considerable amount of years when one day we both realized that we were not "as happy" anymore. We still loved each other madly but over the years he had built his career in one country and I in another. Neither of us wanted to ask the other to give up his or her life work to move and start over, but we both wanted the same thing. To be together. Again. In the main time the separation was taking a major toll on us. We were both miserable without each other. And so one day, in a confused and frustrated emotional state, we decided to just end it.
Our relationship had become, too hard, challenging and the separation from each other, a major source of tension. There was seemingly no solution to our dilemma. If I asked him to forfeit everything he had spent his life blood building, surely he will resent me and he felt I would resent him if he asked the same of me. What a colossal mess!
And so, for two years, we grieved for what could have been. We called each other from time to time, and lost ourselves in each other for a few minutes. It was always the same, like slipping on your favorite pair of jeans. Dependable. Comfortable.
Effortless. Just Right
Two years later, we still had not pulled the trigger on getting a divorce. Neither of us had the strength or fortitude to follow through on it, though we knew it was inevitable. To make matters worse, neither of us could date another person. He was stuck on comparing other women to me and I compared other men to him. Needless to say, everyone we could potentially date was all wrong for us! No matter how good looking or good they were. Clearly, it wasn't them. It was us.
Eventually, my hubby and I realized that we had made a huge mistake. It was clear to us now that what we had was rare. Something to cherish and nurture. All we needed to be happy was each other. To hell with all else!
Today we are together. My husband and I wake up every day next to each other. We are happier than we have ever been. Over the years we have learned lessons that makes us appreciate what we have. Ironically, our two year separation has done more for us than the best marriage therapist. Here Are A Few Lessons We Learned Along The Way.
Never sweat or nit pick the small stuff Laugh and enjoy each other every day. No excuses! Work and set goals as a couple but never worry or quarrel about money or bills Be grateful for what you do have Trust each other completely Communicate your feelings! R E S P E CT each other. Period. Never go to sleep angry or upset Show your love by your actions! Give impromptu massages or cook/order each other's favorite dish
Today, while I may not be a guru of love, I have learned enough to make a significant difference in my own relationship. I will never, ever make the mistake again to think that my career or anything else is more important than my relationship. If given a choice, I choose LOVE!
I am totally infatuated with leaves. Yeah, I know it sounds a lil weird but as long as I long as I could remember. Leaves has always been a fixation for me. I grew up in the Bahamas where the tropical plant life is in abundance so perhaps this was the beginning of my leaf-mania. Who knows. :)
Leaves to me, represent life. They are true representations of nature, tranquility and freedom.
Leaves are powerful.
They can transport you to a tropical island without ever leaving your home.
Leaves, especially tropical leaves, are the perfect way to infuse your home with that island style many of us crave. Ferns, palm branches and banana leaves are wonderful accents to your decor. You can also feature various leaves as framed wall prints, trendy wallpaper, or as fabric prints like throw pillows, bedding, throw rugs or curtains.
Leaves are perfect for formal events, because they are so versatile! Most of us envision green when we think of a leaf but leaves come in a wide array of colors including multicolored, pink, yellow, orange, purple, green, brown, gray and even blue. Leaves also comes in an abundance of different shapes. Because of this fact, it is perfect for just about anything decorative, which includes floral arrangements and wedding decor. You can basically come up with different color combinations and shapes to create the most spectacular looks with minimal effort. Most times all you need is a vase or a ribbon to secure your bouquet and you are done!
Leaves are also an excellent choice because they literally cost you NOTHING. You can collect them yourself and just let your imagination do the rest. You can glue them, spray them, stamp them or even stitch them. But, if you are particularly not feeling creative, Pinterest has an abundance of ideas to inspire you!.
Ok, so while I am in confession mode, I might as well let you know that I also have a cabbage leaf obsession as well. Particularly in dishware. It's sort of a thing with me, lol. I know some folks think it is tacky but I don't care.....get over it! Cabbage leaves are hawt!
Leaves are a staple in Fashion. I remember as a kid reading about ancient Rome and saw for the first time the solid gold braided leaf crown crown worn by the Roman Emperor Ceasar. It was a "wow" moment for me. Still takes my breath away to this day. More than this though, it's beauty and elegance continues to inspire and innovate modern fashion today. Leaf Art and design were here from the beginning of time and they are here to stay!
Yes, I have been awol for a while but I have lots to share with you! In my next post I will let you know where I disappeared to all this time and why I took a break from blogging. I love you all. :) Now for some exciting stuff.
I bring you the greatest cultural festival on earth!
This stunning explosion of Art, expression and color is called JUNKANOOwhich is one of the truest expressions of Bahamian culture. If you are from the BAHAMAS,you bleed Junkanoo. End of story.
Junkanoo is held on Boxing day and New years day. It is a spiritual experience that is unlike anything you will ever experience. The closest to it is Carnival. But, even Carnival does not even come close. Imagine a parade more than 1000 strong with people wearing and carrying the most creative, stunning 3d Art pieces ever created. Now imagine more than half of the members masterfully playing music in unison. The most energetic rythmic pulsating, hypnotic "get in your marrow" music. The music is so infectious you literally lose control....
As you dance to the sound of
Handmade Goat Skin Drums.
Custom made Cow Bells!
And other instruments.
There are many groups and they all dance and perform with unbridled intensity and passion.
It is phenomenal. Epic. Amazing. All that and some biscuits!
I am a DIY fanatic so I am always on the lookout for new exciting how-to's on fashion and crafts where ever I am lucky enough to find them. This one by blossom, does not disappoint! Check it out, and you will be amazed. Seriously. :)
Howdy folks! Got another amazing DIY video to share with you. It is from "StyledByCasanova" I love this one so much because it looks so expensive, beautiful and festive. Truth is however, it is affordable, and quite easy to do. Check it out and get a jump on your Christmas decorating. Cherio!
Confession.This post was created out of utter confusion and if truth be told, the need to vent!
In 2 months or so, I will be redoing our kitchen, and so as I am a compulsive control freak I already chose everything from floor to ceiling as far as materials and colors go down to the most minute detail...that is except the backsplash. Normally I am really good at making a decision and sticking to it but not this time. I have flip flopped so many times now with various tile choices I could actually be worn on someones feet. But then who can blame me?
Materials for backsplashes are so extensive now. They come in every style or material you can imagine, plus they now come in mixed materials like sea shells mixed with textured glass, mixed with copper and so much more variations. The tiles are exquisite but more than that, the colors are swoon worthy. What's a girl to do with so many fabulous choices! Seriously.
So far I have narrowed it down to 4 choices in tiles. That is as far as I got today. It was a valiant fight to get to this point in my selection so patting myself on the back. Hopefully in a few days I can decide which is the winning tile selection...sweating as I think about that. Feels like I am choosing a winner at a beauty pargeant. Sigh.
Those of you who are judging me right now, here is your opportunity to put yourself to the test. Check out these fabulous ideas and tiles and tell me, and you will see exactly what I mean. Good luck, and consider yourself warned!